Need some motivation on this Monday?! Look no further! I met De Bolton when I was in the process of developing this series and what really wowed me was not only her results but how she was apart of the online community. For me the online community was what really helped me especially on those days I wanted to eat an entire pizza by myself.
I am happy to introduce De Bolton and don’t forget to check her blog out! She is super inspiring and reminds us how amazing us women are!
Tell me a little about yourself?
I am the best friend and wife to my husband first for almost 14 years. Mother to three lil diva’s ages 12, 8 and 2. I am a faith-based fitness blogger and brand ambassador. I am a big time fitness enthusiast which was not always the case. I love being active trying new things and motivating others trying to do the same. The high school cheerleader in me never left and instead of routing for my home team I now route for all those wanting to make a difference in their life.
How many kids do you have and what are their ages?
Three– 12, 8 and 2
Were you active before you had kids? If so what activities did you do regularly?
I was not my husband would take them outside to play and go to the park. Now I am playing on the playground with them. Racing them, my two older girls and I usually do a park play/workout once a week and it’s been a lot of fun.
Tell me about your weight struggle?
I never had a struggle until I got pregnant with my lil diva’s. That was the problem because I never had to workout or eat right to stay thin I never found the value of it. As a child my parents also used exercise as our punishment. Instead of being grounded we would have to hold a plank until my parents said stop or a wall sit, do 200 jumping jacks things like that. I know my parents had good intentions but it taught my siblings and I that exercise was punishment for bad behavior. I met my husband who was a personal trainer at the time and never saw his interest in working out. I was also a drive thru junkie and would hop from drive thru to drive thru all day long: breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks. I gained 95 lbs when I was pregnant with my first and never experience weight gain expected it to fall off after I had her and that was not the case. It was actually the opposite I gained more and learned of the struggle of weight loss. I then had my second daughter. I was fortunate to have a personal trainer and nutritionist throughout my pregnancy. At seven and half months pregnant I decided to “save” my money and do the last month and a half on my own. Needless, to say I gained 85 lbs with my second daughter. I got on the exercise train earlier with my second daughter and lost 105 lbs and maintained that for 6 years until I got pregnant with my third. The pregnancy of my third daughter was not a good time for my husband and I. Due to lay offs, lack of work, financial instability we became homeless. I learned I was pregnant three weeks after we lost our home. Ten weeks into my pregnancy I learned I was carrying twins and eleven weeks I had lost a twin. I fell into a deep depression coupled with bed rest I began to eat to self-soothe. I only gained 75 lbs. (I know only? But to me that was a little) after I had my daughter we were in a better state. We had moved into our new home when I was seven month pregnant, job stability and we had a better life situation. I still was depressed, anxious and sedentary. I gained another 20lbs and was discouraged at trying to lose weight. I then found an amazing Online Trainer and Community and it was exactly what I needed at the time. I was lonely as a mom, unhappy, depressed and I needed to find something that worked. I did and I began this last weight loss journey. I have found so much more than what I signed up for and now will be teaching others to have hope, try hard and be resilient too.
What was your biggest insecurity after having your kids about your self image?
The whole thing, the lack of privacy, being present, getting my act together. Particularly, my weight gain. I did not feel like I was in the right body. I felt like I was in my old, thin, could eat anything I want and not gain a pound body and then would get a glimpse in my reflection and be shocked at the lack of progress and the image didn’t match the one in my head.
What was your turning point when you knew you had to lose weight and get healthier?
Feeling like an alien in my own skin, hating my reflections all of those things were not me. I knew from past weight loss the only thing that was going to change my body was me and I had to stop with the excuses and do something uncomfortable, hard and different. It was really when my youngest daughter was 14 months and someone asked me “When are you due?” I was like, “Oh NO! I’ve got to change this, NOW!”
Tell me about your work out routine?
I typically workout 6 days a week. 5 being HIIT training and one being an active rest which is about an hour of cardio. It used to be early morning but lately it has been late at night after my daughters go to sleep. I am working on changing it back to daytime hours because my sleeps has been thrown completely off.
Tell me about your eating routine?
I intermittent fast 4-5 days a week. I usually eat every 3 hours like clock work and stick to protein and produce for my meals. Usually having grains like quinoa, oatmeal and organic corn after workouts before noon on non fasting days.
What exercises did you incorporate into your weight loss?
Functional Exercise training is my favorite, HIIT, weight lifting, and metabolic conditioning.
What was the biggest obstacle you faced when losing weight? Did you ever gain the weight back?
Plateus STINK!!! They can frustrate you but I learned that they are needed to gauge your progress and have you challenge yourself. So far, I have not gained any weight back still steadily losing it and 20 lbs away from my prebaby state.
What is the best advice you can give to Mommies out there that are struggling to lose weight or even get motivated?
Find you Why? It has to be something more than I want to look good. It has to be more than I want to be healthy. It has to be something that on those days you don’t want to get up you remember, “Oh I have to because of this.” It has to be something that gets you over that hurdle. Looking good is something that you can get comfortable with “Looking good enough.” Getting healthy is all relative and has lots of rooms for excuse but I want to be able to run a mile with my child or set an example for my daughters that taking care of their body, eating right and being healthy is important.Or, I know there watching so I need to show up.” Whatever it is that is going to get you passed that “I don’t want to today.” That is your why? It’s may take days or weeks but when you define it, it will make the difference between those who succeed and those who quit.
What helped you on your journey of weight loss?
Support-the online community that I had has been probably 50% of the reason I succeeded. Encouraging, loving women who want to see me succeed is amazing and I think key to weight los.
What is your motto?
God First, witness through fitness and glorifying God by living a healthy lifestyle fueled by faith. (If that is too religious which I understand) or FaithFueled™ is a lifestyle!
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